How are you thinking about your journey to health?
Is it with excitement, anticipation, an expectation of success, a belief that you CAN do it and WILL succeed? Are you looking forward to the challenge ahead of you, maybe with a small element of fear but mostly with eagerness? Are you willing to make plans to succeed and take into account those small backward steps, realizing they aren’t failures but are simply opportunities to regroup and make adjustments to your plan?
Are you looking forward to what you can have, what you get to do, and realize that what you’re letting go of was what has been holding you back?
Is it with doubt, negative thoughts, dread, expecting to fail? Are you focused on what you’ll have to give up, the difficulty that lies ahead, and what you can’t have? Are you dreading this?
Are you planning to do things that you’ll hate and will make you feel deprived?
Some of you who are about my age might recognize this little guy. His name is Glum, and he was one of the Lilliputians on Gulliver’s Travels, a cartoon from the Banana Split Show. You could always count on him to say, “It’ll never work.” in the most glum voice to every single suggestion and idea anyone had! Funny in a cartoon, but depressive and discouraging in real life. The sad thing is that so many of us talk to ourselves this way!
The absolute most important change in this journey is your attitude, and it’s the FIRST thing you have to change.
If you don’t change your attitude before you begin this journey to a healthy life, you might succeed for a short time but you will ultimately fail because you don’t believe in yourself.
If you believe you can do it, when things become difficult you’ll find a way to adjust what you’re doing and figure things out. If you don’t believe you can do it, you’ll give up.
What you choose to believe has an incredible impact on what your mind will focus on.
That focus will become your reality.
So, with this in mind, choose to believe in yourself and focus on the positives of this journey instead of the negatives.
My challenge to you is this:
Take out a piece of paper and write two lists.
The first list will be all the negatives, the things you don’t want to give up, the things you don’t want to change, the negative thoughts about yourself, your doubts.
The second list will be all the positives about this new journey, all the good things about yourself, and the new things you get to do (food choices, exercise, new clothes…whatever you are excited about)
Take the first list, read it, and then choose to make that your past. None of that has a hold on you anymore. Burn it, rip it up, find a way to destroy it (safely!) and don’t waste time on that again.
Take the second list and keep it near your bed. Read it every night before you go to sleep, get it into your brain until it becomes so much a part of you that you don’t need to read it again.
And when those old negative thoughts and ideas come back, stop yourself in your tracks and focus on the positives.
It will take time, but it will change!
You’ve got this! And if coaching is something you would like, I’m here to help. Check out my coaching page here.